No tea here, only grace🕊
Oftentimes when in a state of almost grief like symptoms you are led to believe that this is your final destination. That there is no end and no cure, and that this person will be superglued to your mind forever…but why are you limiting the power of God?
This heartbreak I felt it deep in my core and I can now express the importance of GUARDING YOUR HEART; scripture is not there for the sake of it. There is freedom in the word of God; if you would only obey what is written a lot of what you go through, you would not have to endure.
- A lot of what we endure is self inflicted; do not blame God‼️
- You are not a robot, you have free will but be mindful of how you use this ‘free’ will
“People ruin their lives by their own foolishness and then are angry at the Lord.-Proverbs 19:3 NLT
“Watch over your heart with all diligence, For from it flow the springs of life.”-Proverbs 4:23 AMP
A lot of things take root in your heart first, and knowing that out of your heart flows the springs of life you will want to guard your heart. If your heart is not right then the rest of your life will begin to crumble…
So guard your heart, be careful of what you entertain and what you let in. Pray for discernment and pray to see things through God’s lens.
Article I read on guarding your heart, have a read if you like:
As I pored over Scripture, light bulbs were flipping on right and left; for nowhere in the Bible does God command us to keep or guard our hearts in our own strength. The Lord means for us to guard our hearts by filtering our emotions, desires, thoughts, and responses through his Word.
Another article link:
Looking back on the other side (see nothing is too hard for God) no trying situation is permanent.
I picture a glass window and my younger self sat behind the glass window, and I would say to myself:
Can you SIT BACK DOWN, you know nothing about ‘love‘ do you even know what love is through the lens of God? Have you even embraced the love God has freely given you?
Do you even know God for yourself?
Do you even enjoy spending time with God, what more someone else?
Are you even content in yourself?
Why are you concealing the pain, this is not the solution…
You do not even know your value, your value will not be found in this?
Do you even know what it means to guard your heart?
Are you idolising a relationship?
Is this God’s will for your life?
Do you even know what it means to wait upon God for confirmation, or do you take matters into your own hands?
Have you even consulted God?
Do you know what it means to be equally yoked?
Do you know the purpose of a romantic relationship?
Do you know what it means for God to be the foundation of ‘a relationship’ ?
People are not band aids…
It is so important that you learn to sit at the feet of Jesus and submit to his preparation, teaching, rebuking, knowledge, wisdom, healing💭
What Got ME Through: (everyone’s healing is different; ask God on how best to deal with your situation).
I cried ALOT…looking back, I cried because it was painful. When you enter something you do not plan for it to end…you plan for longevity. It’s okay to feel your emotions, it’s okay to lament. God cares; as much as I was crying to my friends it was only God that truly comforted me and held me through it all and answered me when I cried out to him. I now look back, and I’m like sis this one was self inflicted, but God is so mighty to deliver even when we go against his will. God’s love is truly something.
I prayed ALOT and pray SPECIFICS. You can’t give someone direction and not be specific. So be specific when praying to God. But also bear in mind that God is NOT a genie, and oftentimes you will just have to endure whilst you wait for the answer to come forth. But also know that in your waiting God is moving and orchestrating things behind the scenes. Faith not sight remember. During this period I saw God’s strength more than ever and my dependency on God grew like never before.
I fasted; some strongholds can only exit the building through fasting
I deleted pictures etc, what am I reflecting back on? It only made the wound more sore. I also blocked the person; obviously make peace with the person ( “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”- Romans 12:18 ESV). And for me out of sight and out of mind made healing easier.
I cut out the sad music it only soothed the pain. & Encourage yourself in the Lord‼️-watch sermons, listen to uplifting Christian that exalts God, study a book in the Bible, journal, have open and honest conversation with God…
In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps.- Proverbs 16:9
No longer do I take the life that I did not create into my own hands
I have learned to wait on God and consult God before anything. Acknowledge God and wait for God to respond. The backlash of not waiting is even greater than the original intent; it’s better to wait ‼️
“In all your ways know and acknowledge and recognize Him, And He will make your paths straight and smooth [removing obstacles that block your way].”-Proverbs 3:6 AMP
Learn to be still, what is the rush, what are you trying to prove? To sustain and for a relationship to thrive requires a lot (blog post for another day).
Do not despise seasons God brings you into; they are for your betterment. Remember, if God permitted it, he will surely see you through‼️
Yes, this relationship aesthetic is ‘nice‘ but there is SO MUCH MORE TO LIFE
I did not know that I was complete in Christ (it is so important to KNOW your identity in Christ) that person you are with should not complete you, but rather add to you/ the purpose you are both to fulfil in this generation
“And our own completeness is now found in him. We are completely filled with God as Christ’s fullness overflows within us. He is the Head of every kingdom and authority in the universe!”-Colossians 2:10 TPT
Pray to God for fruitful friendships that will expand his kingdom
You will not die if you do not have a bae ooooo
God will comfort you
Grow deeper roots in the Lord: “Have the roots [of your being] firmly and deeply planted [in Him, fixed and founded in Him], being continually built up in Him, becoming increasingly more confirmed and established in the faith, just as you were taught, and abounding and overflowing in it with thanksgiving.”-Colossians 2:7 AMPC
Learn to be content in EVERY season and cultivate a heart of gratitude. You have what you need, stop focusing on what you do not have…and ensure your desires are surrendered unto God..do not idolise a relationship
“My God will meet your every need out of his riches in the glory that is found in Christ Jesus.”-Philippians 4:19 CEB
Learn to express your TRUE feeelings unto God, he already knows aways. Do not bottle anything up before God; it will only harm you.
“So here’s what I’ve learned through it all: Leave all your cares and anxieties at the feet of the Lord, and measureless grace will strengthen you.”-Psalms 55:22 TPT
“Are you weary, carrying a heavy burden? Then come to me. I will refresh your life, for I am your oasis.”-Matthew 11:28 TPT
And an important prayer I now pray is :
I say this at the end of all my prayers because I desire for God’s will to be done in my life. God’s will is always for good and it just leaves me at peace that my life is in God’s hands and therefore I don’t need to fear…and maybe I may pray for things and God may be like ‘No, this is not my will for you’ so I just submit and surrender.
My last advice to you is if you want to pursue someone CONSULT GOD, AND WAIT UPON GOD TO APPROVE. Do not grow impatient and take matters into your own hands
Fin- until tomorrow 💕🕊